Have you ever been given a compliment or had someone express gratitude towards you?
How did it feel?
How did you react?
If you’re like most people you probably said something like, “Oh this old dress? I’ve had it forever!” or “It was nothing”.
Rarely do we ever say, “Thanks”.
We often think about how grateful we are but have a hard time expressing it. Why?
Why do we have a hard time with gratitude?
I’ve thought about this question a lot lately.
Recently, I was at an event and received many compliments on my outfit and the first compliment I received I caught my self saying, “Thanks. I bought it at a consignment shop brand new!”
Really? Why couldn’t I just accept the compliment and say thanks? Why was it so uncomfortable for me?
I looked inside and realized the harsh truth: It’s not easy for me to express gratitude towards others.
I can pretend, but it’s not the case. I don’t go out of my way to express gratitude because I have a hard time receiving it. Giving and receiving go hand in hand.
So, in that moment I made a choice to accept gratitude if the opportunity came up again and I consciously said, “Thank you. I appreciate your compliment”. The woman felt good and I felt good.
What I didn’t realize at the time was that as she was expressing gratitude, I was taking away from her experience by not receiving it.
Think about that for a second.
Once I became aware, I created the possibility of being more gracious.
This is an experience I had of expressing random gratitude towards a stranger.
I walked into a Tim Horton’s and the woman behind the counter was so bubbly and sweet. After I placed my order I said to her, “I really want to acknowledge you for your customer service today because you made us feel welcome and important and I want you to know that we appreciate that.”
What happened next was a chain of events that I didn’t expect.
The woman teared up. She said, “In the time I have been working here nobody has said such kind words. I don’t think anyone has ever been so kind to me”.
The man behind me offered to pay for my order because he was so moved by what had just happened.
As we walked away, my kids asked me, “Mom. Did you know that person? Why were you so nice to her?”
What I learned in that moment is this:
1. Expressing gratitude is internally rewarding. It makes you feel good and that feeling is contagious.
2. Your kids’ model what you do and say. My kids went to school the next day and came home with multiple stories of how they expressed gratitude towards others and we shared stories of the reactions from others.
3. People feel uncomfortable being acknowledged for their acts or services because we live in a society where people are too busy to stop and spread the love.
Why am I sharing this story?
Well for many reasons but mostly because of this:
I want people to feel what it’s like to be on the giving and receiving end of gratitude.
I want people to slow down long enough to appreciate the many blessings they have in their lives.
I want to live in a world where we learn to bring each other up with our words and actions and I want people to feel valued and appreciated.
In my coaching program I dive deep into the inner workings of gratitude and give a lot of strategies to authentically express gratitude to many people in your life including the people that drive you crazy!
If you want to live a life that is happier and more complete, and you are ready to see the world from a different lens, then I encourage you to connect with my calendar to book your free clarity coaching call with me to see if any of my programs are right for you.
Being healthy isn’t only about what you are putting in your mouth, it’s about the thoughts and actions you take on a daily basis towards living your best life!