Actually, it isn’t even real! What? That’s crazy talk- right?!
The definition of stress is, “A state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances.”
What is an adverse or demanding situation? Well, that depends on YOU and your perceptions.
I’m here to give you 4 tools to use to change your perception of stress, so YOU can be in control, not “stress”.
** If you feel like you can’t control stress, I am going to invite you to book your FREE, no obligation coaching call with me. **
How you respond to stress is a choice!
You have a pattern of how you behave under stress. A situation happens and you label it as stressful and then your primitive brain kicks into flight or fight instinctively. The emotional threat you are dealing with then attacks your mind. It’s always been this way, but it doesn’t always HAVE TO be this way. Remember you can choose!
Here are 4 tools to manage any stress that life throws at you:
Tool 1: See The “Story”
What is really happening and the story we tell ourselves are two different things.
Imagine your basement floods. Your mind starts in with the usual;
I don’t have time for this.
I don’t have the money to fix this?
What is going to happen?
This sucks! Why me?….
Those thoughts are the “Story” that create the stress, not actually what happened.
Stressing about it never solves the actual problem which leads to tool #2.
Tool 2: Take Action
Now that you see the “Story” for what it is, take action to fix your situation. Tear up rugs, call the insurance company, call your entourage and get it done. It has to happen no matter what. Cry if you need to, but then take action.
Tool 3: Adopt an attitude of gratitude.
Yup! That’s right. Show gratitude even when things get bad. It refocuses your attention away from the stress around you. A flooded basement sucks! It is an inconvenience. Gratitude is appreciating that you have a basement which means you have a house and probably insurance! YOU CAN ALWAYS FIND A POSITIVE IN A NEGATIVE SITUATION. It literally releases dopamine in the brain to move you out of parasympathetic arousal, aka Fight or Flight, and puts you in a space to think more clearly.
Tool 4: Just Breathe
Know that this is temporary and it will pass! Life doesn’t happen to us, it happens for us. It helps shape our identities and it gives us opportunities to develop strength of character. This takes awareness and practice.
What do I do now?
If you feel too stressed to relax, and you KNOW it’s affecting your health, your weight, and your energy levels, then click here NOW to schedule a time to talk with me about how to reduce or cope better with the stress in your life.
We got this!
Health and Transformational Life Coach