Let’s face it, we all use excuses to get out of doing things.
We blame our kids, our work, our “fatigue”.
I’m sure you can add to the list of excuses that you’ve made in the past.
Do you notice a pattern with your “Exit Strategy”? Is it money? Your kids? Time?
What is really going on when you do this?
You are afraid to say, “No” and you don’t want to look bad to others. So, excuses validate your reasons.
There is one problem though……
People see through excuses and BS.
I am going to give you a very useful tool to help you recognize your patterns of excuses. Once you are aware you can start being honest and be true to you! Imagine the freedom of saying, “No” and being comfortable with that choice!
No need for excuses and “Exit Strategies”.
I am also going to invite you to my 4 week coaching program that will give you the other tools you need to be authentically you no matter what the situation. Remember, if your excuses prevent you from doing things in one area of your life they are preventing you in other areas too (including your health).
I had a friend who committed to going to a seminar and then there was a death in the family and he used this as an “Exit Strategy” to get out of doing the seminar.
Ok. I know it may seem insensitive to dismiss the death of a relative
but the one has nothing to do with the other. He said, “I really want to go to the seminar, but I had a death in the family” (a week earlier).
Notice the one little word that allowed him to use his “Exit Strategy”- BUT! When we use the word “but” it validates the excuse.
“I want to go to your party BUT my kids have dance”.
“I want to go to the seminar BUT there was a death in the family”.
The tool you can use to catch yourself making excuses is to replace the word BUT for AND. By doing this you realize that one has nothing to do with the other.
Using the word AND allows room to figure it out and make it happen (if it’s important enough). Notice how the statement is changed, “I want to go to your party AND my kids have dance”.
If it’s not important to you, be willing to speak your truth. People will respect you more when you don’t give excuses!
If you can’t say, “No”, then my program will give you many tools to be authentically you! You will shift your excuses and take ACTION!
Connect with my calendar to book your NO obligation, FREE TBC Laser Coaching Call to uncover your “Exit strategies” and get you into action mode!
You got this!